Business in General

Promos / CCBTools

I finally cancelled our subscription to ccbtools (which we’ve been using to deliver promos, link codes, etc.); they haven’t updated in years, our banners disappeared (again), and now their site is totally down. I tried calling them yesterday … no response. So our license is invalidated. It’s still working a little with what we’ve got, but we need to come up with an alternative.

YOUR LINKS STILL WORK – this doesn’t impact you as an affiliate (you can totally keep using our tools as they are now, and we probably can keep adding to them but I fear something could break further and the whole thing be dumped) except it makes it more challenging for us to deliver promos to you in an efficient way, and really it’s high time we re-assess (as webmasters, affiliates and sponsors ourselves) how we sell stuff.


The past couple of years I’ve been slowly coming out of denial: we can’t do it all — can’t sustain doing things by other people’s standards (that I’m old enough now to recognize I can mostly reject) and just HOPING we can squeeze in doing things to our own standards. I’ve stopped doing pretty much everything obligatory, and am in a grieving and hibernation period that I expect to emerge from doing fewer things, BETTER. Unfortunately that has not left room for me to build promos or do the things I want to do to help affiliates make money on our sites. But I still want to. In the meantime, I apologize. Delia’s site is still awesome and regularly updating, and you should promote it … and the rest of our sites are still valuable (especially to augment Delia’s and our unique stories – there truly are no sites — no couple — like us with a collection spanning as many years and CHANGES as we have and still updating) enough to promote.

The sites in our network have incredibly unique homemade content. I very much want to bring more old-school dawn-of-the-internet porn and autobiographical sites into our network to be good stewards to the herstory of do-it-yourself porn on the internet and how all of that came to be, preserving what some amazing unique people have created and challenging the standardized corporate-controlled templated bullshit that reigns supreme nowadays. And because I care about the people who made (and still make) independent porn and all kinds of naked self-exposing content.

We are passionate about homemade porn, the wild spirit of the old WWW — how it connected us and encouraged true entrepreneurship and creativity. We care about (and know that people out there CRAVE) personal stories unfiltered unmanipulated unFUCKED-with by what facebook or the porn industry or “new media” or google say is popular or acceptable.

We want the freedom of the the nineties-internet back with the speed and tools of today, and to do meaningful pleasurable intimate work with it. People in the porn “industry” have never understood how much our success is about love and providing love stories to people. Surfers want to fall in love: with us, with themselves, with sex, with work, with risk, with bravery … with something (someBODIES) unique and valuable. That’s why crowdfunding is an unstoppable hit; people want to feel invested in someone’s story and passion and see it play out. If you can harness that as an affiliate — that enthusiasm (which you should have yourself for anything you promote) eager to follow A STORY — you will make money. You will even add meaning that people are desperately searching for in a sea of clickbaity bullshit, shallow memes and cookie-cutter content.

Best of luck to all of us, and stay tuned … my site’s members-only area turns thirteen in just a few days / on May 1st. And I still love it and want to live there. Forever.



Weekends & Holidays as Adult Webmasters

Do you do porn work on weekends and/or holidays? Or do you maintain a more traditional schedule?

I personally love working weekends and holidays.

Instead of taking our days off when “normal” people are at work, in school, etc., we build our free time around opportunities for privacy, quiet, freedom from crowds, etc. not so much around socializing with normal people . . . whoever they are. 😉

Working in internet porn means we have a ton of flexibility to make our own schedules. I love the feeling of getting work done on days when other people aren’t accomplishing anything except nursing hangovers, etc. There’s something almost defiant and naughty about working at midnight, weekends and holidays, and then being able to take a leisurely walk, say, on a Tuesday morning when other people are sitting in cubicles and having to kiss people’s asses after enduring early commutes and see a movie when other people haven’t even gotten home from their jobs.

But what about you? I’m curious in part because I often build promos and send emails to you folks (affiliates) on “off” days and wonder if you’re more likely to read and follow-up on them on weekends or if they wind up buried at the bottom when you check your email on a regular work day.

Working late nights, weekends, and holidays embodies a lot of the excitement of being a self-employed internet entrepreneur – I get that feeling of having access to money and gambling to “win” it that regular jobs don’t provide. Every minute feels like an opportunity, and using the minutes other people don’t use to try to make money makes me feel like I have an advantage. Maybe it’s purely psychological, but it’s powerful and exciting to me. I’m making money when other people are SLEEPING!

Nothing is guaranteed — we don’t have the security, predictability or stability of a regular job — instead we have the feeling that there is NO LIMIT.

Most people assume being a webwhore is thrilling because of the sex, but for me the thrill is the GAMBLE of running my own business. It’s like being in an international casino that’s open 24/7 where the rules and games are infinite and constantly changing. And I get to wear my pajamas and be my own dealer.

Most people also assume being a webwhore is unhealthy because of the sex, but for me the biggest real(?) danger is in my addiction to playing this game. I cannot quit, and the thrill is just as much (if not more) on the webmaster side as it is on the camgirl/content/”whore” side.

Looking at weekends, evenings and holidays from the point of view of a gambler, I guess I actually AM doing what a lot of people do (or want to do) when they’re off work. Going to Vegas, trying to get lucky. Playing the lottery and fantasizing about winning. But the way we do it is way way smarter. Isn’t it? Or am I just as crazy as any other compulsive gambler?

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Focus on What We *CAN* Control

I appreciated this little inspirational piece in the latest XBiz magazine, “Focusing on Your Own Four Walls”:

It’s a good reminder with the summer slowdown approaching (whether we believe it exists or not), and especially pertinent as a small-business person in general. I get less freaked out than other people do about changing trends or new challenges that are out of my control, but I *always* feel like I’m missing out on so many opportunities and am so limited in what we can do and that other people are going to get there (wherever that is) before I can!

I try to remember that one of the cool things about having a small relatively-undiscovered network of sites is that there is so much room to grow. So many things to try before we’re anywhere NEAR maxing out our potential! I already know tons of things we can do to improve business so it’s not like we’re at a loss as to what to do. There’s a lot we DO have control over, and that’s awesome.

We were just walking downtown and saw a sign up in the window of a beloved indie bookstore. After twenty-five years the owner is throwing in the towel.

People like him have obstacles we’ve never had to face and probably never will. Insane rent increases, the limitations of running a brick and mortar store in a small out-of-the-way town that has been virtually inaccessible for many months over the past few years due to bridge closures and retired ferry boats, competition from the internet and ebooks (yay us! we have tons of competition, but we’re on the internet too and not selling costly tangible goods!), and a shitty landlord that fucked the sale of his business by declaring the lease invalid because it hadn’t been notarized. We’ve got it easy compared to folks like him, and there are LOTS of folks like him out there.

Lots of people in this business blame lots of outside factors for their problems. Many of those factors are real challenges, but I’m 99% certain those things cannot make my business fail. Maybe I’m deluded and that’s why I’ve hung in here so long, but I still see a million possibilities and ways to succeed or at least improve business. It makes sense to focus on all of the positive improvements and changes we can make and ideas we can try instead of wasting energy on the negative stuff we can’t control.

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